The Gift

June 4, 2008

As today’s gift, a comment received on yesterday’s gift post – my Winnie the Pooh quote on friendship. I loved what he shared, and wanted to send it out to all. Enjoy!

Tom Says:
June 4, 2008 at 12:58 pm edit

Although this quote does not quite pertain to friendship, whenever I read it I think of my close friends and how they have touched my life.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
– Marianne Williamson

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So, my thanks to Tom for sending this to me. May we give everyone around us the permission to show their own glory, and liberate them, and ourselves, from fear……

The Gift

June 3, 2008

I was searching under “Friendship Quotations” and came across this one, which I liked. It is a worthy, honorable, and true thing to say, something a real friend would say to you. After all, a real friend is the someone who can look you in the eye and see straight past the flaws and the struggles, straight into your heart…the true heart…the one that came to this earth unblemished, the one that carries God and your true essence. That friend can see all you truly are, and all you are truly capable of. So of course it makes sense that that same friend will encourage you to be your best with words like those of Christopher Robin to Winnie the Pooh:

“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” (A. A. Milne)

I would simply add: and more full of goodness than you realize.

The Gift

June 2, 2008

“We train in not being afraid to be a fool.”

An instruction from Pema Chodron’s teacher. From her book: Comfortable With Uncertainty: 108 Teachings on Cultivating Fearlessness and Compassion

The Post – Final Photos: New England Seascape Oil Painting

June 2, 2008

My earlier posts had photos of the New England seascape I’ve been painting for my sister. And for whatever reason, the Photoshop demon that plagued some of the intermediate photos of this painting, did not raise its ugly head for these. So, my final photos of this painting. If you want to compare these to earlier photos, just click here for the page that has all the previous links for the New England seascape photos.

And now, the first is a shot of the whole:

Then some closer shots of the left, middle, and right sides of the painting:

Some shots of the tide pool, rock and seaweed details, and foamy surf:

A couple shots of the pier and town (note my attempt at a Corvette for my brother-in-law in the town picture):

And last but not least, a hermit crab on the rocks, a nod to my Under the Pier main animal character!

So, now it will be on to other seascapes, paintings of my story’s diner (inside and out), and some pen and ink drawings with color washes of the various animal characters under the pier! Stay tuned.

The Post – Birds of the Air

June 1, 2008

I have always loved the passage from Matthew 6:26 about the birds of the air:

“Look at the birds in the sky. They don’t plant or harvest or gather food into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. You are more valuable than they are, aren’t you?”

In lieu of my talking today, I am going to share a blog entry link I came across today. The blog is called “Travelin’ with Charlie” and the description is as follows: “An occasional travelogue, philosophical and spiritual journal of a middle-aged widow, recently retired, who is trying out life as a fulltime RVer with her Golden Retriever, Charlie.”

Spiritual journeys of any kind intrigue me, and as I noted in my Bette Davis blog post the other day, the stories of people and their heroic attempts to make their way through life, along with their flaws as well as the poignant, always, always interest and inspire me. Her January 8, 2008 blog entry happened to pop up when I did a Google search for the Bible passage on birds of the air. She did one that day entitled:

“The Birds of the Air, The Lilies of the Field

What struck me was her discussion, which mirrored some of my thoughts, about how in the end, all our worries about food, bills, things etc. are really meaningless and not important, yet ….they ARE important because we need food, a place to live, some preparations for our future and the care of our children….we can’t just abdicate our responsibility to look after ourselves and live life blindly. There has to be some middle path, some kind of balance in the tension of these two extremes. Anyway, she talks about those passages and includes in her discussions, thoughts about the mystics, St. John of the Cross, Teresa of Avila, and Thomas Merton, all personal favorites of mine. She explores what it is for each of us to travel through our own “dark night of the soul.” In any event, I thought I would share her blog entry.

Her brief bit about herself on the blog page states that she is a 57-year-old Leo, lives in Portland Oregon, and adds: “Widowed suddenly in October, 2003. Decided being single shouldn’t keep me from the dreams my late husband and I shared of traveling our beautiful country. Check out my other posts on The Oregonian’s web page, http://www.oregonlive.com/travel/ and watch for my articles in the travel section of the Sunday Oregonian every few weeks.”

In any event, I’m going to add her to my Blogroll, and if any out there are interested in following her travels and thoughts, just visit Travelin’ With Charlie.

Enjoy her, and below, I’ve added some of my own “birds of the air” moments from a beach trip a couple years ago. Happy Sunday…and Happy June.

The Gift

June 1, 2008

With summer’s heat creeping up on us, something to cool you off:

The Gift

May 31, 2008

“As we train in …patience, we are first of all patient with ourselves. We learn to relax with the restlessness of our energy…Patience takes courage. It is not an ideal state of calm. In fact, when we practice patience we will see our agitation far more clearly.”

Pema Chodron in her book, Comfortable With Uncertainty: 108 Teachings on Cultivating Fearlessness and Compassion

The Post – Bette Davis Inspiration

May 28, 2008

As someone who generally works alone, I often look for inspiration in others’ lives. I think that the truly heroic can be found in anyone’s life and I never tire of hearing another’s story. This even extends to the world of movies and the people who bring them to life.

I’ve mentioned before that one of the things I love are old movies. The “real” old ones. From the thirties and forties. The era of black and white film, the era that generated some real “legends.” Two I rank at the top are Katherine Hepburn and Bette Davis. For today, I’ll write only about Bette, but I will note that both shared an independence and forthrightness that often got them in trouble, isolated, reviled or ridiculed. Yet, both were often on untrodden paths, trying things women didn’t do at that time, including standing up for what they wanted in their careers. They stuck it out and came back to create legendary careers and blaze a trail for those who came after them.

When you think of “leading lady” you think of “glamorous beauties” and Bette Davis, “Bette Davis eyes” aside, certainly wasn’t viewed that way. Even she noted that unlike her contemporaries, “she forged a career without the benefit of beauty.” She said she “became tough by necessity,” and even chose her own tombstone epitaph: “She did it the hard way.” And in reading over her Wikipedia entry, she sure did. Battles over movies, marriages, scripts, and co-stars, she was anything but “demure.” Yet, gifted or flawed, you can’t read her biography and not respect her.

She believed in her work, wouldn’t compromise on how she thought something should be done, and stood up for herself in an age where women were not only not taken seriously, but usually victimized. She fought for her rights, as in her lawsuit against Jack Warner to gain more control over her life and work choices, and even though she lost she set an example that others would later follow…and win.

She took on roles and challenges others wouldn’t touch. Her Wikipedia entry states:

“Her film choices were often unconventional; she sought roles as manipulators and killers in an era when actresses usually preferred to play sympathetic characters, and she excelled in them. She favored authenticity over glamour and was willing to change her own appearance if it suited the character. Claudette Colbert commented that Davis was the first actress to play roles older than herself, and therefore did not have to make the difficult transition to character parts as she aged.”

She wasn’t a saint. Outspoken, she had a caustic wit often at the expense of others. A particularly favorite target of hers was one of her co-stars, Joan Crawford:

‘The best time I ever had with Joan Crawford was when I pushed her down the stairs in “Whatever Happened to Baby Jane?” ”

“Why am I so good at playing bitches? I think it’s because I’m not a bitch. Maybe that’s why Miss Crawford always plays ladies.”

“You should never say bad things about the dead, you should only say good…Joan Crawford is dead, good!”

But personal flaws aside, when it came to her art, her soul was true. Acting was her life-long passion. Her observations about the meaning of her work can be an inspiration to anyone, no matter their path in life:

“It has been my experience that one cannot, in any shape or form, depend on human relations for lasting reward. It is only work that truly satisfies.”

“My passions were all gathered together like fingers that made a fist. Drive is considered aggression today; I knew it then as purpose.”

“To fulfill a dream, to be allowed to sweat over lonely labor, to be given the chance to create, is the meat and potatoes of life. The money is the gravy. As everyone else, I love to dunk my crust in it. But alone, it is not a diet designed to keep body and soul together.”

One of her co-stars, Charles Laughton, gave her the impetus to always push herself to reach for things way beyond what she thought she could do. He told her:

“Never not dare to hang yourself. That’s the only way you grow in your profession. You must continually attempt things that you think are beyond you, or you get into a complete rut.”

That became her philosophy in life and it seems like a good one. At the very least, I expect life and work never gets dull, and may even be an adventure. I guess if you decide to take her approach , a line from one of her movies probably sums it up best:

“Fasten your seatbelts. It’s going to be a bumpy night.”

The Gift

May 28, 2008

“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”

Anaïs Nin

The Gift – Peace is Every Step

May 27, 2008

If of interest, there is a You Tube video of Thich Nhat Hanh, speaking gently of his responsibility, having been touched directly by war, to bring that reality to others, so they may know. He speaks of the pain of all involved, his own pain and fear, and how to generate peace, love, and understanding. A number of others, including war veterans, speak of their experiences both in Vietnam, and in attending his retreats of healing.

What impressed me most was his gentle reply to a veteran whose battle resulted in the death of 5 children. His response to the soldier was one of love, not punishment, his solution not about the past actions, but about “present moment.” He asked the soldier who was haunted by this memory, “Why do you cling to the past?” He told the soldier there are so many children now who need food or medicine. Help them. He offered the man love, freedom from pain, forgiveness, and a way to take actions in the present as a way to release the past.

Click here if of interest.

Thich Nhat Hanh is a Vietnamese Buddhist monk who teaches mindfulness, awareness, love and compassion and who works with people worldwide, including American soldiers from Vietnam, to heal and find their peace.