Posts Tagged ‘Dad’

The Family “Cell” — Who I Was and Why

September 1, 2025

“David Foster Wallace’s ‘This Is Water’ speech uses the metaphor of fish and water to highlight how the most fundamental aspects of our existence often go unnoticed. In the story, two young fish swim past an older fish who greets them with, ‘Morning, boys. How’s the water?’ After a while, one of the young fish turns to the other and asks, ‘What the heck is water?’ This illustrates how the most pervasive elements of our lives can become so familiar that they become invisible to us.

By Jonathan Winnegrad, ABO-AC, NCLE-AC in 20/20, Sept 2024

Many things go into forming a person, especially if the programming starts right from birth. As I tried to find the “entry point” to tell my story, I was overwhelmed by all the things I needed to weave into the narrative.

So, I resorted to what I always do when confronted with too much information: I throw everything I can think of onto a large sheet of paper to see it all at once. That way, I can then notice if there are key pieces that stand out — relationships, patterns, repeating elements.

In my true scientist way, I made a list of all the different influences over my young life:

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The Place My Body Remembers, But I Don’t

December 7, 2024

Back to the beginning…

Color photo of an old two-family house in Torrington, CT, with the number 57 on the porch post.
Photo by author

“What do you do when the person you are dependent on for safety becomes the source of danger

Dr Becky Kennedy on parenting and how trauma happens
https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/dr-becky-kennedy-protocols-for-excellent-parenting-improving-relationships-of-all-kinds

57 xxxx Avenue, Torrington, 1955-1957

In one respect, I wish I could go back in time to 1955-1957 and be a fly on the wall in this apartment. But maybe it’s better I can’t. Whatever went on at 57 xxxx Avenue is something I will never know because I can’t remember…consciously. But boy my body does.

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